Taking the Time to Listen
by Tiffany Crosby on 10/13/18
Listening is hard work. It requires you to be present in the moment, attentive to all that's being communicated verbally and nonverbally. Such active presence also allows you to ask relevant, thought-provoking questions that clarifies and dissects what's been said. It requires you to have patience to allow the conversation (dialogue) to develop and to allow thoughts to be processed. Listening cannot be rushed, it takes time. You can't listen well on warp speed. You have to slow down. You have to make room on schedule which means that you may have to set aside other things. Listening is demanding. It wants all of you. It doesn't allow you to think about your to-do list, upcoming meetings, or piled up work. And I think that's why we do so little of it.
Don't get me wrong, we talk a lot. We share of lot of things. Just look at how much is posted to social media on a daily basis. Everyone is vying to be heard but view are listening. That's about the same as rating the organization as average but every employee as above average -- it doesn't add. To listen, you have to stop talking. I don't post as much as I used to and I doubt that many people have noticed. We're bombarded with information continually. There are more blogs than we can possibly read. So I've chosen not to add too significantly to that pile and instead, read and listen more.
So why this post? Some of it was guilt. I looked at the last blog post on this website and realized it had been seven months. Now I have done two posts on Linked in during this time, on building and enhancing your character. You're welcome to read those -- they really are quite good. And some part of it was to encourage you, should you wonder onto this page, to commit to spend more time listening. Listening is one of the most important, transformation actions you can take within any of your relationships. So practice it today. Slow down and listen (and then you can swipe, tweet, chat, like, snap, pin). Priorities!!